Starting off 2025….

… on a bizarre note, say many of my clients. I concur and nod, as I do about 5 hours a day Monday through Friday.

The collective US citizen has observed and minimally partaken in a highly controversial battle over the representatives of our country. Who knew a US felon isn’t allowed to vote

but take a great position of honor as our President? Hypocrisy… or…  

Anyway…

COVID PTSD? Do we all have it?! Are we all equally afraid of being trapped at home while simultaneously enjoying trapping ourselves at home?

Committed relationships? Do they even exist these days? Are we all major avoidants? Thank you, social media and you liar enabling apps, you.

Student loan debt. Why are we still encouraging this when so many people can’t even find jobs after college?

Is the “American Dream?” attainable anymore? Middle class citizens seem to be barely scraping by with their full-time salary while the cost of living continues to rise…

Nightmares, real life nightmares existing in other countries while we watch full screen. It’s like a global psychotic episode; how destabilizing is it to nail a fence between the ethics of a protective boundary AND basic human empathy and rights.

I don’t want to be negative, but I do want to be real…

I don’t even like to think about the impact these issues have on so many souls. However, I think if I don’t acknowledge it, too many souls might think they are doing something wrong. Things are soooo tough, you aren’t doing anything wrong.

Our society and economy are like mazes with deceptive maps being handed out to all of us.

And… it seems like we don’t even know who exactly is writing the maps to get the fixed. Whoever that is… seems to be in hiding somewhere, like The Wizard of the US with no yellow brick road.

I don’t want to follow that anymore.

My map is telling me…

-            I have to and WILL focus on what’s within my control. I can’t control others, or these bigger bizarre problems of the world. I can only control myself, where I spend my time, where I put my focus, the support and love I try to give others… the work I do… the boundaries I set. I hope I can contribute to small ripples of positive change.

-            Baby steps are easy to celebrate. I must focus on doing small positive things today… and repeat this pattern tomorrow.

-            I can grieve over every single bizarre bullet points I mentioned above… and still be grateful for what I do have. I can love this moment, radically. I can laugh, dance, be free and excited… and grounded…. while I also ache over how I wish things were.

-            It might be good not to follow… the map our parents gave us nor our teachers, nor society’s unspoken guidelines. Society is shifting, our mazes are different. Does it make sense we have different maps? (RV living? Entrepreneurship? Living with your parents until your 40? Living with your parents until forever? Not having kids? Living life as a throuple? Moving to Portugal? Buying a house with your besties?!) The list of societal norm shifts seems endless but… if you aren’t breaking any laws or hurting others intentionally, you do you beau. Your map: your chance to thrive.

-            I/we don’t have to do this alone. How beautiful it is to have someone pave and illustrate this map of life with us. “You take the steps, I’ll make it pretty.”  That’s my kind of teamwork. Be here and keep it simple. Let's have clear goals and walk together towards them. My focus stays on those who show up and make it clear they are on my team.  

To 2025; where my map is upping the ante. Concur and nod with me?!